tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497038950704433299.post2413137709540551714..comments2024-03-05T11:08:30.251-05:00Comments on Teeny and the Bee: I AM adoptedUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497038950704433299.post-12307230062714345432015-02-02T02:13:13.198-05:002015-02-02T02:13:13.198-05:00What a beautiful comment. And what a beautiful fam...What a beautiful comment. And what a beautiful family you are! No matter what happens for you and your daughter as she gets older, I can tell that you will love and support her through every step like you already are. She's a lucky girl!! Teeny and the Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05411274628013774549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497038950704433299.post-48565472043043514592015-02-01T13:45:12.638-05:002015-02-01T13:45:12.638-05:00Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience...Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It is so nuanced and complex. I am coming from the other side of adoption; I am an adoptive parent through foster care. My daughter was removed from the bio family home at only 3 months old, so she will not recall the circumstances. She is only 3 1/2 now. I try to share with her, age-appropriately, that she was adopted, that there are lots of ways to make a family...all of the concepts that you share with your children. I wonder how her feelings and experiences will differ, being an adoptee through foster care, than your experiences as a domestic infant adoptee. I wonder if she will want to find her birth parents. I am maintaining a relationship with her bio maternal grandmother, and through her my daughter's one full and one half sibling, but her bio parents are barred from contact until she is 18. How can I answer why she was removed from their home? I don't want to demonize her bio parents, but I do want to protect her. I try to show her how life is about choices, and we strive to make good ones, but we can always try again. I'm concerned that the nature vs nurture question and the idea of predestination could make her think that she has to follow the same path as her bio parents. So many questions, and only time will tell. Thanks again for sharing your experiences; it gives me so many things to think about as an adoptive parent in the hope that I can guide my girl as well as possible. Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03941104648832168818noreply@blogger.com